It’s morning. You get up, get ready and begin to work. You work hard until night, and you are doing this on a constant basis, always keeping yourself busy and feeling that you are on the top of your game. Then one day, the foam on your cappuccino isn’t the way how you always like it which leads to a mental breakdown. You are asking yourself: “What the hell just happened?”
You’ve been holding yourself up for too long, pretending that your problem doesn’t exist. Don’t get me wrong, we all do it. The difference is how many of us work on it and how many of us pretend it is not there. Things and emotions don’t just disappear. They are stored in your subconscious mind and affect you every day. When you have some inner conflicts within you, you get easily frustrated, things bother you, and you are impatient. There is an unresolved issue which is stopping you from feeling total happiness and joy in life.
Since I know many people who deal with this emotional challenge, here are 4 ways how you can learn to resolve your inner conflicts and embrace your personal growth.
1. Find the problem
If you are ignoring your problem for too long, sometimes finding the root can be a real challenge. Some of the questions you can focus on are: “What have I been thinking lately the most? What pisses me off? When do I get upset easily?”
Sometimes you have to go really deep and spend some serious time with this activity. Often the answers aren’t something you want to hear, that’s why you have been trying to escape from this for such a long time.
2. Face it
This is the moment when the real growth starts. Once you find the answer to what is causing you to feel the imbalance, you need to face it. I would say that 80% of the problems and inner conflicts aren’t resolved just because people are afraid to say it out loud. But this is the place where you stretch.
To get even more clarity on what bothers you and what needs your attention the most, put it on a piece of paper. Write it down and then read it out loud for at least 3 times, so you become okay with that.
3. Create a solution plan
Now that you know the issue, it is time for some serious action. Let’s say that you have the money problem. Sit down and make a list of all your expenses, what you can cut off, where you can save, what is important to spend on and so on. Or maybe you have a relationship issue, and there is something that was bothering you for a long time, but your partner doesn’t know about it. Then the action would be to sit down and talk it through.
Whatever your problem may be, brainstorm and find some ways how you can resolve it. If you only write your conflicts on a piece of paper but don’t take any particular action, nothing will happen, and you stay stuck.
4. Listen to your mind and soul
One of the benefits of being able to resolve your inner conflicts is also preventing them from becoming too big. For a better life balance, you need to learn how to listen to your feelings. One of the best ways which many successful people use on a daily basis is meditation. I can’t begin to tell how powerful this activity may be. Learning mediation is a real art at the beginning. If you have never done that before, find some simple mediation modules on YouTube and just start.
Remember that as much as you take care of your body and mind, your body and mind will take care of you. We all have moments, we all have breakdowns, but the point here is to play with your mind and get to know yourself as much as possible. All this is an ongoing process of building strong self-awareness and explosive personal growth.