“Growth hurts because change isn’t easy, that’s why they call it growing pains.” Tony Gaskins
It’s dark. But I don’t see the darkness. I feel it. I can taste it. That’s weird. It tastes like a shit hole. Okay, I think I know what’s going on. It’s the rock bottom time baby.
Yep. We all have been there and more than likely, we will. If you come here for a sweet motivation, I have to disappoint you a bit. Here we go raw and real, we get practical and also effective on how to deal with dirt and make a rainbow out of it.
How many of us want to get to rock bottom voluntarily? I see precisely zero hands in the air. Not a damn roach wants to go there. We want to have a beer in one hand, sunscreen in another hand, chillin’ and enjoying watching the waves of the ocean. This sounds like a goodnight story but not life so let’s come back to Earth for a moment.
If you read my stuff you probably already know that I try to take some of those most horrifying events of your life and turn them into beautiful memories. You’ve probably thought that I need a brain check-up and a dozen of La-La lend pills. Before you completely disregard my existence, let me share with you 4 life-transforming gains we get once we hit rock bottom.
Gain #1 Tough cookie mindset
Tough mindset is good but only if you know how to use it in the right place and at the right time. You don’t want to transform into a tough cookie 24/7, numbing your emotions, pretending that you always “got this.” I am warning you only because I’ve been there for many years and what I thought was a strength, was actually a misconception of what the real mental strength represents.
The benefit of a strong mindset is in becoming immune to your future struggles. Even when no one wants to admit it, we grow when we face challenges. Relaxing somewhere in the 5-star resort in Cancun is not the ideal recipe for personal growth. Usually, it is the rock bottom with the fight which brings the 5-star resort if you know what I mean.
There is no way that you can grow your tough mental muscle without the struggle or pain. That’s why hitting rock bottom has so many benefits and lessons.
Gain #2 New Perspective
Think about it this way. When things flow and life is good, you aren’t pressured to think of improvement that much. Why would you change anything when everything seems to work just fine?
But when you are put in front of the challenge, when your pain becomes intolerable, you are pushed to reconsider things around you. You are challenged to find or create something better, more effective and less painful.
That’s where your brain gets into much more resourceful state and that’s also where the magic happens. Hitting rock bottom gives you a new perspective on life, it often shows you what really matters and what is only some petty shit which doesn’t deserve your attention.
Gain #3 Willingness to change
Here we are getting into action mode. You know how it feels when someone tells you that you need to change? I guess annoying until you feel it for yourself.
Often we know that we need to change, we know that we need to be more discipline, more human, more committed or more carrying. But most of the time it is some giant, uncomfortable event, pain or struggle which actually makes us to be willing to change, to create something different and certainly better.
The fact that we refuse to change is in our stubbornness. We think we know it all. We think we are extremely special for some unknown reason. This attitude is typical when we are on the top. But when we hit rock bottom, suddenly the special feature disappears, we are drowning in vulnerability and somewhat we become what we should always be. A fucking humble human.
Gain #4 Better understanding and humble attitude
Empathy and better understanding towards others are hidden in our rock bottoms. That’s where we develop compassion towards other people’s feelings and suddenly understand behaviors of people which we didn’t understand before.
I am not trying to tell you to suck up to people’s disrespect or poor behavior towards you. But the gain here is in humbleness and openness with others as well as yourself. Rock bottom will make you less ignorant of real values of life and more human towards creating powerful connections.
I want to leave you with one simple thing. Celebrate your rock bottoms. As ridiculous as it may sound right now, especially if you are hitting one, don’t disregard those times of your life. Don’t deny them as something you want to forget.
All those challenges are here to serve you, to help you in your growth and make you a better person. You start winning when you understand them and work with them. That’s the beauty of life.
What benefits you’ve gained when you hit rock bottom? Leave a comment below.
My name is Silvia and I teach people how to turn their pain into power. My personal struggle inspired me to help people in living a powerful and fulfilling life which they create and control. You can find out more of my story by visiting my personal page www.silviaturon.com. Also, there is a FREE gift waiting for you. See you there!