Letting go of things or people is sometimes one of the hardest things to do. But living in a toxic relationship or job you hate just because you fear what is on the other side is one of the biggest tragedies of life. How do you know when it is time to give up things which drain you and open the door to a new chapter?
“I will never give up,” was my answer to everything. Well, never say never right? As I am getting older, I understand that people are giving up all the time. We give up sweets to lose weight, we give up draining jobs to find the career of our lifetime, we give up negative relationships so we can find true love.
Since many of us associate giving up with some weakness, I have for you 3 reasons why in some cases, giving up is the best thing you can do. It may require more courage than you though and made you 5 times stronger and braver.
1. It drains you
Can you imagine that you only wake up and already feel tired? Your days go slow; there isn’t excitement or any euphoria. The only thing you are waiting for is night so you can go back to sleep and forget about everything. This sounds very much like depression, and long-lasting unhappiness may cause it. Holding onto things just because you can’t let them go is a pretty desperate feeling because it makes you lose control.
Sometimes we need a little bit more time to recognize whether we are going through a test or we need to let it go. If your unhappiness and frustration take too long, you should definitely take a second look and find out whether a given situation (job, relationship,) serves you at all.
2. It transforms you into negative and pessimistic person
You can be the most positive person on this planet, but if you live in a toxic relationship or a depressing job, it is tough to keep this status. You are experiencing a lot of anxiety and frustration which is poisoning your mind and keep you in the dark.
If you know yourself and your otherwise cheerful personality, look for signs when you are feeling sad. It is only a bad day or a day is transforming into weeks? Being a positive person is a hard work and it will define your overall success in life. If toxic environment influences your mind, you are losing yourself which leads to unhappiness and lack of potential. Isn’t cost too high?
3. It destroys your relationships
If you are constantly nervous and frustrated, people feel it. The good thing is that those true friends and family will try to help you most of the time because they see your problem from the outside. Unfortunately, if we tend not to listen and ignore others advice in spite of the fact they are right, people will stop trying.
The sad truth is that we often tend to complain but don’t do anything about it. If you are living in an abusive relationship, complaining to your friends how bad this relationship is, why are you still in it? Because of love? What love are we talking about? I get it that in situations like this one, letting go is much harder and require more time because feelings are too strong. But I also know that if you don’t stand up and don’t fight for respect and self-worth, people and life will beat you to the ground.
If you are anything like me and you would rather die than to give up, I get it. It often may feel as we didn’t fight too hard or long enough. But I also know that there are situations when enough is enough. Recognize those moments and prioritize what’s important and what benefits your life.
Have you ever been in a situation where you felt drained but couldn’t let go? How did you deal with it? Share your story or advice with us and leave a comment below.
My name is Silvia and I teach people how to turn their pain into power. My personal struggle inspired me to help people in living a powerful and fulfilling life which they create and control. You can find out more of my story by visiting my personal page www.silviaturon.com. Also, there is a FREE gift waiting for you. See you there!