We all need motivation for our goals. Some are getting motivated by watching motivational videos; others read blogs and articles on the web to get motivated. There are also people who go to certain individuals (life coaches) or events (seminars) to get motivated. These are all excellent sources of motivation, but what if you could do it all on your own? What if you could ‘create’ your own motivation so that you would never have to ‘look’ for it anymore?
This type of motivation is called intrinsic motivation. Intrinsic motivation is the best source of motivation simply because it doesn’t depend on something external. Relying too much on external motivation is not trustworthy because of one reason; if it stops with ‘existing’ in your life (an NBA player retires, your favorite show gets canceled, your idol dies), your motivation goes away with it too. The best way to create long lasting internal motivation is by asking yourself the three WWW’s; what, why, who.
What is it that you want in your life to get motivated for? Is it your childhood dream that you finally decided to pursue or is it a goal that has more to do with your current situation like going to the gym more often or becoming more productive. Either way, you need to define clearly for yourself what it is that you want to have or do in your life.
Once you’ve figured this out, write it down. When you write your goals down, not only do you create a clearer overview of what you exactly want, but you also hold yourself accountable. You can’t talk yourself out of something when it doesn’t work out like you thought it would. Vague excuses like ‘’well, I actually wanted something else’’ or ‘’ I wanted that, but slightly different’’ are no longer justifiable.
Now that you’ve defined for yourself what you want, think about why it is that you want it. Why is it that you want to achieve a particular goal? Will it make you feel happy and fulfilled? Or do you feel the need to prove to someone that you’re worthy enough to achieve a goal? You need to find out what drives you to set certain goals for yourself.
When you know what drives you, you have something to ‘fall’ back on. The journey towards achieving your goals is a bumpy road full of obstacles and traps. It’s easy to get lost along the way when you don’t know why it is that you’re doing what you’re doing. However when you’ve built a strong foundation (read; a strong ‘why’) for yourself you won’t easily get off track. You’re more determined and more confident in yourself because you know what you want, and you know why you want it. At last, you also need to write your ‘why’ down. It will positively reinforce your behavior towards your goals and it also serves as a reminder during bad times.
Who are you trying to please or impress with your goals? Is it you or do you feel the need to show what you’re capable to others? The latter is what often causes a decrease in motivation. Because what if those people that you’re trying to convince of your abilities, absolutely don’t care whether you achieve a certain goal or not? Then your motivation to do something will diminish because the fulfillment you longed for through their acknowledgment of your accomplishments wouldn’t even happen in the first place. That’s why it’s better for your well-being not to let your motivation depend on someone else. You are your own motivation. You owe it to yourself that you need to act on what you want.
Being your own motivation makes you independent of any other person and makes you even more committed towards achieving your goals because let’s be real; if we can’t even follow through on our words, then how can we expect it from others?
The ‘What, Why and Who’ are equally important for your intrinsic motivation. They all have their unique contribution to building long lasting motivation for your goals. The steps aren’t complicated nor do they require a particular skill. When you know your three WWW’s, and you combine this with the appropriate execution, then this will lead without a doubt to a more fulfilled and prosperous life!
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Krishan Kalpoe is the founder of Shrinksdom & an aspiring psychologist who has a passion for personal development and wants to share his knowledge with the world for the purpose of making people's lives better. His website consists of personal development advice about the three fundamentals in life that we all need to be happy: love, success, and wisdom. Visit him at www.shrinksdom.com.
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